Where To Not Go For Advice

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In 1995, when I became a mother, if the Internet was around, I didn't know how to use it. I had my pediatrician, my husband, and any book I could get my hands on to find information. That was it.

Now, new moms have literally infinite opinions as they google their concern du jour...

Do I start cereal at four months or do I wait?

My Word! Ask this simple question on any one of the mommy sites or facebook pages and as a new mother you will be inundated with opinions (stated as facts) that will have you certain that there is a governmental conspiracy to give your kid cancer through the enrichment of foods.

Should I feed my baby a bottle so I can get some rest?

Again, a barrage of opinions flung upon a lonely, scared new mother that leave her thinking there must be something selfishly wrong with her if she is not willing to be a human pacifier.

Is it okay to let my baby cry?

Goodness gracious. Everything from encouragement to borderline assault. Babies can cry, but only for five minutes. You're a terrible mom if you let them cry at all. You will destroy them psychologically. You will develop their lungs. You will scar them emotionally.

When should I start potty training?

Some women swear their kids were trained at a year old (LIARS!) and others have a two year development plan for getting there including a song and dance for every successful soiling in the toilet.

Moms, be careful where you go to get your information. I have not even touched on vaccinations, education, marital advice, toddlerhood, or teenagers. You will have countless questions. People will have endless opinions.

If you are married, ask your husband, go to your pediatrician, or ask an EXPERIENCED MOM who can look at it through a lens deeper than six months. If you are not married and walking this challenging path on your own, please be careful where you go to get support...and consider this website a safe place to ask for prayer and encouragement.

Me personally? I start cereal when baby is no longer sleeping through the night because he is hungry (usually around 4 months old), and I would give the breastfed baby a bottle if you need sleep, of course it is okay to let him cry a bit, and I don't bother potty training until three years old and by that age it takes me two days.

You have a friend in me...and by God's grace, I just happen to have a wee bit of experience. Never hesitate to ask. I would love to be your biggest encourager.

Lyette and her husband of 23 years, David, have 15 children (and one on the way). Their ten daughters and five sons range from 20-years-old to almost two. Lyette just so happens to believe that her children and yours will change our world for good. With Lyette's vast experiences in parenting, she loves to offer hope and help to families on her website TheRebacks.com. Lyette is also the author of Please God Don’t Let Me Screw This Up: Hope & Help from a Mom of Fifteen

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